Enough with the false sympathy already

As a single mom the two most common phrases that I hear are
1) Don't worry things will get better and 2)how do you do it?
Both of these phrases are esentially benign and are meant to
portray, at least I am sure on the part of the person saying
them, a sense of caring and concern for my welfare. As much as
this may be the case they are two phrases I am very tired of hearing.

Don't worry, things will get better.

Really? This one is problematic for the main reason that most people
that I know have absolutely no idea whatsoever what being a single
widowed mother of 3 children is really like. These people tend to
generalize and make an attempt to compare my life to their own and can't
possibly fathom that there are people who have struggled more than they
can ever imagine. I never ask but I usually want to ask "ok then , tell me
when?" I know however that questions such as these are pointless
and nothing but lessons in futility. Further to this question of
mine I want to add that as a single widowed mother of 3, I average
20 loads of laundry, 21 meals, 14 snacks, 28 beds, umpteen thousands of toys
to pick up and uncountable amount of dishes to do, hundreds of kilometers
to drive and a countless and thankless number of other motherly duties to
do in a week. Each and every week I might add because these things do not do
themselves. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids, but this is not
where it ends. After, or sometime in the midst of all this I go to work.

My job is a decent one with great co-workers and for that I am lucky
but it is backbreaking, and already causing me chronic pain. My job is not
one in which people leave the industry because they have retired but rather
they leave quite young because of work related dissability it is
crippiling backbreaking work that I do. I do it because I have little other
choice. The pay is better per hour than most jobs I could do, and 3 kids
are expensive to feed.If I had the option to upgrade to something better,
believe me I would but as a single income earner with 3 kids to Support,
that option is just not there. So I restate, when exactly will things get
better? When I am crippled and can no longer work, when my washing
machine breaks and I have to once again wash thoses 20 loads in the tub?
Please I beg you all, stop spewing such drivel it is oh so not helpfull.

How do you do it?

Simple answer here - I have no choice - no one going to do it for me!

Really though I am not always melodramatic and cynical, I am just a
mom who is tired of false sympathy and a pretext of showing that
people care. If you really want to offer me some kind of assistance,
buy me groceries!